Happy Valentine's Day!
So I'm being introspective on this V-Day... What exactly am I looking for that is soo hard to find? I've been associated with some extremely beautiful women in my life, inside and out, and yet "The One" is ever elusive... I won't allow impatience to dictate life decisions, but I am truly beginning to question my criteria...
Here is the List:
1) She has to know my Dad... not know of Him - KNOW Him...
My walk is riddled with acts of Faith and constant correction from my Father. the last thing I need is my woman saying "You should just curse your God and Die" She needs to have a real understanding of this walk and the struggles it holds...
2) She has to be beautiful to me...
Your woman needs to float your boat. I'm a one woman man so she needs to be every woman to me. I may not know what I like, but I know what I don't like...
3) She needs to be intelligent...
I need to be able to have a conversation that goes beyond day to day drivel. A beautiful mind is just that... Beautiful...
4) She needs to have a sense of humor...
I stay on jokes! 80% of my life is filled with laughter! I couldn't possibly align myself with a female curmudgeon... I don't care if she's a super model, If you can't get the joke, you eventually will become the joke... Slightly mean but completely true! :) And if she is genuinely funny in her own rite... I'm on my way to Jared's!
5) She has to be Ride or Die...
This is just standard... nobody wants a fair weather friend. Especially when you've been known to be called to weather a storm or two... I can't see you from the hill if you couldn't see me in the valley...
6) She has to be altruistic...
This is the core of a good woman... if my focus is your happiness but your focus is your happiness too, who has MY back? People throw that word "Reciprocity" around too easily. Is it really "in you" to think of others first, or do you do it for recognition?
7) She needs to be ready and willing to Love me and be Loved by me...
Sounds simple right? You have no idea how hard this one is. I have had the hardest time finding a woman whose past is not completely clouding the potential of her future. The saddest thing is that they all know it but can't seem to do anything about it. "I'm not him. I never did you that way nor do I ever intend to..." smh... Afraid to treat you right for fear of being played or hurt. How can I give you 100% when you're only willing to give and accept 30%?
I wear my heart on my sleeve. Not because I'm a glutton for punishment, but because I REFUSE to delay the woman that God has for me because I was afraid to get hurt. Passion is a double edged sword... I risk the pain because I know that the reward is so great!
That's about it... The 7 gotta haves... Everything else is negotiable and I never let negotiations kill the close.
FYI: I hold myself accountable to the 7 as well... plus a whole lot more. I am in NO WAY saying that I'm perfect... I'm probably the biggest Work in Progress out there. But I'm honest and open about it.
So am I wrong? Am I asking too much of the 2011 Woman? Chime in on this, my 40th Valentine's Day, and let me know... Be Blessed!
Sincerely,
DBrown
